Children aged under five who live with both parents who are involved in strife will grow into children who are emotionally insecure, so they are vulnerable to depression, suffer from anxiety, and impaired behavior in primary school age. The development of self-concept can also be disrupted.
Research published in the journal Child Development proves this. Research conducted on 235 people from middle class families in some areas of the United States. The respondents were interviewed about the respondent's parents fight when they are still at school in kindergarten. Then 7 years later they were interviewed again.
According to these children, when they were in kindergarten and watching parents fight a lot, they feel insecure and less protected. They also claim to feel miserable with the fight. Most of the children whose parents did not get on it also tends to be more aggressive and irritable.
Interestingly, not all domestic conflict that causes problems in children. If the parents can be grown in conflict, are able to refrain from yelling at each other or resort to violence, the fight is not negative influence.
"Problems occur every day. But if parents can work together to solve and display positive emotions when in conflict, the result is positive for the kids," says lead researcher E.Mark Cummings, professor of psychology at the University of Notre Dame.
In other words, a difference of opinion between husband and wife can be settled amicably it will change the way the child of a conflict.
Added by Cummings, to help children have a good emotional maturity, the key would not raise them in a sterile family from the conflict. Parents should be able to give an example to the children how to control emotions to "fight" fairly and resolve conflict with adults.
"Arguing is normal in the household. But parents should be aware that their children see and hear," he said.
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